Rachael on Friday the 13th

Friday the 13th. Sheesh

My Dad is throwing a private event. He's higherd a personal chef, and has requested each of the family members to bring a companion. He even wants us to dress for the event. I don't quite understand the reason for him doing it. He asked me to bring some Health proxie information. Is he planning on announcing something bad? Does he have cancer? Does my Mom?
No matter the reason, this is a big family event, and my father asked me to bring someone close. I think my Dad is bringing his lawyer, and my mom is bringing the man that delivered my sister (I think). My sister is bringing her long-term boyfriend.
I invited a near and dear family friend of 8 years to the event. I can't express how close she is to my family. She's almost a sister. My parents treat her as such, and her parents treat me as such. If something big is happening in my family, I want Ama to be there.
Ama asked me on facebook how to dress, and Rachael of course looked through my facebook, and saw that, and went batshit crazy. Keep in mind, I've known Rachael for three months, I've known Ama for 8 years.


rachael: so we going to the rents this weekend?
me: I'm going to some family dinner on sunday
rachael: i'm not invited? you dont want me there? am i suppose to be giving you the benefit of the doubt in not wanting to be like other guys and hurt me right now?
me: Yup
rachael: even though i'm not invited?
me: Yup
Rachael: but ama is? thats pretty fucking hurtful
me: Oh I get it, brb (this is where I delete my facebook acount. Facebook is for friends to catch up with, not for crazy people to get mad at me)
rachael: whatever. you dont want me there ? what do you say to your parents that they wouldnt invite me?
me: So, for my own edification, do you view a person inviting themselves to something as a personality flaw?
rachael: no i'm not inviting myself at all. but thanks for inviting me and ama....oh no wait you just invited ama
me: oh wait, you don't understand and you're assuming things again, and you're offending yourself, wooooooah
rachael: whatever understand what? why dont you do that thing you do and explain it to me in that way you do
me: I don't care to explain it...I don't want to expend the energy, and I shouldn't have to (Really, if someone's going to berate me based on nothing, why should I care what they think?)
rachael: exactly. explaint he fact that you hurt me by that. and leaving me at home doesnt mean a damn thing to you. whatever. no explanation is going to change the fact that i mean so little to you (wow, martyr much?). so there is no reason to lie to my face anymore (cliche much?) i try to make it so things get better, and then you slam something like that into my face (victims complex much?) and obviously you knew it was wrong, so you didnt tell me the whole truth about what you were doing and with whom
me: I know I havn't done anything wrong, and I'm kind of entertained that you're taking it this way. Especially since I know i havn't lied
rachael: entertained that i was hurt?
me: No, entertained by this crazy fabricated reality of yours
rachael: whta did i fabricate? its not crazy, i was hurt. being hurt doesnt mean i'm crazy, stating a fact doesnt mean i'm crazy. walter is it true you are going to have a family dinner? is it true that you did not invite me? is it true that ama is going? is it true that you did not tell me this? i dont see where any of that is fabricated
me: I did not invite you, ama is going, and I did not tell you that. Now, you are offended. Any reason you have for being offended is fabricated. Now, tell me why you're offended, and I'll tell you the assumptions you made
Rachael: i am offended that you did not invite me but that ama is going. i am offended that you do not want me to be there. i am offended that you did not tell me that she was going. that is all
me: okay, you're in your own world, and there's nothing I can say to bring you out of that. you have maybe 2 percent of the facts, and you're basing everything on that. I don't care to explain the situation, and if you're punishing me based on that, I don't feel like I have a valid reason to be concerned that you're hurt
Rachael: what do you mean by 2 % of the facts? i'm not punishing you by no means, i'm venting my hurt
me: I could tell you why, but what's the point? you already made your decision to be angry. I didn't do anything wrong, so I don't feel like I need to defend myself. you keep thinking what you want to think (and that's where I stopped. I can't take it anymore. At least not without sedatives)